Child care subsidies

So what you are telling me is that your combined income is quite comfortable, as a higher rate tax earner plus one, and that your lifestyle would suffer if one of you gave up work?
In my post I said that the state should not subsidise child care costs, this is a decision you both made, ie to have children and it is totally irresponsible to expect other, less well off people to subsidise your lifestyle by being taxed to pay Your child care costs.