My express wishes, too. I hope my wife will see that my going away will be like all the other partings we’ve done, without fuss. My wife never wants me to hang around to see her off at the airport, it suits her best that I leave her at the entrance to ‘Departures’, turn heel and leave. And she does the same at my departures. No ‘waving offs’!
Anything else is sentimental and childish. In African culture such displays are shunned, even children are not used as ‘props’ for emotional theatricals. As ancestral icons children are treated with dignity, and tenderness.
“When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.”
No longer allowed here.
Perhaps something to do with it being distasteful for sea bathers and consumers of local shellfish?
But it is common knowledge that it still happens.
It is still legal but only in designated areas. My uncle was put into the sea just after he was cremated, there was just a wait for the ashes to cool down, it has to be organised and the area for scattering ashes is accessible only by boat.
wow didn’t realise cardboard isn’t allowed here! My dad is in a lovely woodland cemetery in Warwickshire in a lovely white cardboard coffin, he even has a view over an old brewery!
Not sure which country you’re talking about? In france if you can’t have the funeral/cremation within the timescale (5 days?) then you must pay for the person to be moved to a morgue and embalmed.
Well, you are entitled to think that. I think it is rather ungracious. How about someone leaving to go to a combat zone? Or a small child being packed off to boarding school, aged <8, as I was, from Dusseldorf airport, bound for a school close enough to Scotland to go there for away matches?
And it would obviate the lines in the song 'White Room, performed by Cream, poignant lyrics by Pete Brown, which resonate sharply with my experences of those gloomy, smokey, shabby north country stations of the '50’s and '60’s.
I don’t think it’s for you to say it’s childish and sentimental, everybody finds comfort from different things and if a dramatic show (it would not appeal to me but) gives comfort to someone then so be it. A lot of harm can be done through bottling up emotions
And therein lies the problem of repressed emotions. Within each of us the child still lives and needs love and attention. Our child archetype often is the one that believes “it’s their fault” fears “they are not loved” goes and hides in a corner and sulks and so-on. And if we do not honour the legitimacy of those feelings as adults, if we “give up childish ways” often those emotions emerge inappropriately and damage /hurt ourselves and others. Also, childish ways is the place of fun, spontaneity, creativity. Putting aside the inner child we are impoverished.
You are quite right, Eddie. It’s for each person to decide how, when and why emotional experience is to be managed. And, as you correctly say, bottling up emotion is potentially harmful for oneself, and others in relation with that self.
Your post echoes those of Eddie @Edward_Roberts and Christopher @captainendeavour, Sue and its strength is augmented by your linking the ‘inner child’ to spontaneity and creativity. I should know that, child at heart as I sometimes am, and not always appropriately
Like me aged 4 from Nice, only mine was actually in Scotland. I was driven to the airport until I was 7, after that I usually went in a taxi by myself. I would have liked to have had someone waving goodbye.
A relative of our recently had a sea burial just off Jersey - only a very small number of close relatives allowed (did not include us) but apparently quite a ceremony.
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