Very interesting. Thank you Vero and Peter. Its possible to write a couple of book fulls, on several ways of thinking through, but my abbreviated view of the scenario begins with my first thought, that no one reacts in the same way as everyone else, to alcohol and its effects.
Second, whatever effect it has on person a) to person z), it is ‘likely’ (a quote from somewhere) that Alcohol “affects the brain’s communication pathways. This makes it harder for you to think and speak clearly, remember things, make decisions, and move your body” Plus from somewhere else, “first effects… are usually of a mild stimulant”…
Using French words, is my own, personal, way to distance myself from Eng. Statements that may have already become overloaded with British cultural feeling, and as I remember UK as a deeply pub and ‘social drinking’ culture, I know that however many decades I put between me and my homeland? whoever hears me, and knows me to be " British" is likely to color my *vocabulary", with British taste.
I have never been, or wanted to be any part of Brit. booze/pub/social drinks scene. I think of it as a national tragedy, best illustrated by Hogarth, and maybe, described by Flora Tristan in her thoughts on London’s gin palaces, cruelty to women, children, and the poor, and prostitution.
Gabor Maté. I believe, goes too far in suggesting childhood trauma is the cause of almost every over-use/abuse of all drugs …including alcohol, but in the end, perhaps he will be found to be close.
Children deprived of affection, most often, put something they find comforting, in their mouths.
I'm OK with being obliterated, entirely. I don't need anyone to agree, or to validate my POV. I remember it being acceptable to criticize those who, like me, disliked "altering their minds" with stimulants etc, unless medically and unavoidably.
I found myself under pressure, when I was young, to approve, to share, to take part. Long before I understood that people, societies, around the world, do not all behave in the same way, and that many people in the world think of drinking beer or anything that makes them feel differently, think differently, as poison.
ALL OK now! Invitations, received kindly, BUT! anyone leaning on me NOW, to get me to take part, I can tell them, sans fear or favor, to fuck off. 
