Hi Annie
I’ve just joined too and know how you feel.
Just wanted to drop you a line as I found myself pregnant for the first time in France, with shaky French to boot so know what you must be going through. My son is now a strapping fine lad of 16 so it was a while ago but would be glad to give you any pointers (that I can remember!)
I initally was going to the local hospital as I hadn’t long been in France and didn’t know how things worked, let alone had a doctor. After a few hairy experiences, and feeling very alone and low, I walked out of what I considered a very unfeeling place and wandered the streets of Bayonne looking for a clinic. After a few wrong turns I found a maternity clinic and a lovely paediatrician (who spoke some English) who welcomed me and made me feel like I was being looked after.
She was great and saw me through all the stages including the bizarre situation of being asked to sign up for an epidural at 4 months gone at an ante-natal class. When I replied that I didn’t want one, there was a shocked silence from everyone. She asked me if I knew that it was going to hurt! I wasn’t against drugs but didn’t like the idea of an epidural if i didn’t need one. It is standard practise in France (the home of the water birth!) and I had to fight not to have one. I did take all the tests and visited the anaesthetist beforehand. Funnily enough when labour started I screamed for one but it was too late. My doctor used pethidine, a morphine based pain killer which worked very well as she was against gas and air because of nausea.
The health service here in France is excellent and full care is given to pregnant women but do take the time to find out where you will give birth. Hospitals are not always the best place and they do have clinics. I didn’t have top up insurance but was still covered for this private clinic…it just meant that I had to share a room after the birth.
I stayed a full 5 days after the birth, as standard practise, with the midwives thinking it funny that I wanted to keep the baby with me over night. They believe very strongly in mothers regaining their strength and a few good nights sleep before sending you home. Take all the help they offer, you’ll need it.
If you are rural there may well be a travelling mid-wife (sage-femme) that will come and visit you and help you through. Again ask at the CAF or CPAM or if all else fails try talking to local women and best of all your Mairie’s office. The secretary should be able to help you find out what to do, if she is sympathetic. They are there for that not just construction permits!
I wish you al the best and please feel free to ask me anything or just to chat. I was very alone when I was pregnant and a new mother and could have done with someone to talk to.
Wish you and your bump all the best
Christina
There are many benefits that you can claim as well…the ‘prime’ for being pregnant is paid out 3 times, I think, I didn’t qualify as I had not conceived on French soil! But go to your local CAF to find out your rights on this. The French state believes in helping women have babies!