Richard, I had missed this post earlier, my computer is all over the shop at the moment. As I am. The truth is I have not read all the posts, just the top and tail. I am savouring it all to read when I have a week or two spare.
I think what you have highlighted in the above para also highlights là difference. The cutting remarks from Steffi are indeed a vocalisation of what a French person might think but never say. Respectfully Steffi you are in my experience quite a rarity as you are clearly French, but with a command over 'English' that might put a lot of us to shame.
This hybrid will give Steffi an insight which, like it or not is accurate.
What I gather you are saying Rich is if 'we' want to put jam on our Yorkshire pudding then that's our business. Yo ho Gung ho, quite right. Not in France.
Do I understand this correctly? As has been said everything is like clockwork, thinking en mass, not out of the box. I often pop out in my 'slip on 'sandals, but if I have a pair of socks on, I'm not allowed out of the door. Regime, protocol, rules, regs.
I couldn't do it. I am L'Anglais, I've got good friends and command respect, as l'Anglais, and I have 'trained ' my chums to understand my humour, without which I couldn't exist.
Personally, I'm happy to be a cultural implant. I prefer it, and now, I don't let people 'push in' I shame them, and shout!. OI!
If I'm approached for a cigarette, I'll have a row in the street. I don't care.
If i'm in the shop situation and have had to asked the guy to repeat something , and he sighs, I walk out, mainly to stop myself clocking the guy.
I cherry pick the bits I like, the sun the sea the good times, the schooling, I just ignore the bits I don't want.