If you turned up on her doorstep, then surely you have a way to inform them? A letter in the post?
Oh yes, I forgot about that, OK for a death announcement but hardly useful for day to day updates. Which is what Jackie (D in L)and I had daily till FB intervened for reasons unknown even to them (āthemā 
are there any real people there? 
) I suspect.
I canāt even get other family members to visit and check up as either they are spread āabroadā, Derbyshire and Ireland, or live close but no-one talks to each other.
If I tell you that, when Franās Mum died, many years ago, we all went to the funeral but then split up, Fran and Brotherās families, and 2 Sisters and their families, to hold separate wakes in 2 pubs half a mile apart, you will get the picture.
I get on well with my family, step family and ex-wife but that lot leaves me totally mystified.
It happens. My mother came from a family of 10 siblings. In total I discovered in recent years I have/had 35 cousins. I only ever knew three of her sisters and one of her brothers and their families, so in total I know only about half a dozen of my cousins. I occasionally saw others at weddings when I was very young but never spoke to them. My mother had sisters she didnāt speak to for decades and there was no attempt to let them know when she died - never occurred to us. There is no real reason why one should like or get on with oneās siblings.
i donāt know about Instagram, I donāt use it but the issue with WhatsApp is that to use it on a PC or a tablet you first have to have it on your phone. The PC or tablet app connects through the phone app to your correspondents. The iPhone mini is small enough to fit anywhere and Iād go for an Apple or Android phone before a KaiOS one.
But is it worth it simply to connect to one only person? If I did buy one it would sit at home doing nothing until the time came each day or so for a 15 minute exchange of messages.
I have gone through it with several people now, including my son and grandson in Thailand today, and there is absolutely no feature that I need that I canāt get on my little Doro. So I think it highly unlikely. We will have to find another way somehow.
In that case Iām afraid I really donāt understand what the problem is - apart from your multiple accounts issuesā¦
You can install it n a 7060.
But I donāt want or need Whatsapp, John, the only possible thing I need is Instagram and I only want that for one person.
Anyway, I have been given, reluctantly, by Franās daughter, the mobile number of her son, the husband of the D in L in question. Last night I sent him a long text asking him to please ask his wife to either return to FB, or text, or call, or email because I canāt get on Instagram. (I foolishly spent almost an hour last night trying to get on Instagram but it would not let me pass the username (not password this time) stage, no matter how many outlandish choices I made, and the help system was less useful than a bucket with a hole in it.
So I gave up and, if this doesnāt work I give up entirely. The whole family is a bunch of shits who care nothing for Fran and the only saving grace is that she has no feelings for them either as she probably does not know who they are.
I am a well known fan of thread drift but this one takes the cake. The effort to make contact with the D in L is the subject of the āBloody Facebookā thread. This thread was not about that but about wondering why I could not make a reply in that thread so started this one to find out. Still no wiser. 