So true Michael. I live in a land of immigrants, L.A. I just hate it when foreigners complain about this 'host country'! I don't even complain and I'm a native. Oh don't get me wrong, there are plenty of things I don't like about my country, but they are things that [I] don't like. This is not gospel, just my opinion and I save it for a fortunate few, and I try to be delicate/polite about it. For my personality I prefer the way of life in Europe. I lived in Italy for almost 3 years, and integrated myself so fully into the Italian way of life and mindset that I had a bit of a rough go of it when returning to my native land. I never complained about Italian life, or their ways, even to this day. It is simply different.
I am married to a wonderful French man now, (been together over 10 years), and I am trying to appeal to him to return to France. I have been looking, (for years on SFN, and other sources), for the 'down side' to living there. All of his family is there. Parents, siblings, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncles, cousins......Of course I will miss SOME things that are perhaps CONVENIENT and EFFICIENT here. A positive about L.A. is that the weather in here is temperate, (albeit boring). Our people, (and hopefully future), is in the south, Montélimar area. The weather isn't that bad, (hot summers and cold winters).
As far as my family here, I have very little so we'll just have to settle for visits to each other's lands, and SKYPE, (with 1 sister in L.A, and her son in Hawaii).
I figure by the time we get to France, there will only be a few more years we could work, (the day-to-day grind thing). We're middle aged, but not ready for retirement yet. Also we have tech-savvy nieces and nephews who are very helpful for all the bureaucracy that is part of the French way of doing things.
How are rentals in the south? I don't want to live indefinitely with my in-laws as wonderful as they are. I don't want to buy until we suss out a few things. I started a discussion about rental vs. buying a couple of hours ago. Or as the French say, 'a large hour ago' LOL