I have a problem and wonder if anyone has any answers for me!
My 94 year mother-in-law lives about 10km from us in our local town here in the Charente. She has a ground floor flat with a small garden and as she is very healthy, the five minute walk to the café for company , was ideal. I have done her cooking, washing, admin, etc and arranged a cleaner, since she came to live here nearly 4 years ago. Her family in the UK have health problems and cannot even accommodate her for holidays.
The problem now, is that she has decided she wants total care and I cannot provide more than I do now. She has decided( I think for attention) she cannot go out and she has also developed a paranoia convinced we are against her!
Her first choice is to return to the UK but she cannot do this unless she can stay somewhere and my sister-in-law is not in a position to look after her until she is assessed by social services. I have tried to arrange temporary care but she has to be resident to be assessed for that or care in a private home but these are beyond our budget. The ones in the locality of her other son have asked to see a guaranteed £150,000 to cover 3years rent!
So now, I am wondering if anyone knows a 'maison de retraite' which has other English residents. I'm not expecting the staff to speak English or anything like that, but perhaps, if she can talk to other residents from time to time that would be a solution.
Alternatively, I will need to get more help for her in her flat here but this is not something I have experience of,so although I can speak French quite well, I don't know where to go or what to ask for.
I know many of you who contribute on this site are very experienced about life in this country or are French, so please can anyone give me some pointers in a direction which might solve this problem!
Thank you in anticipation