Since we came to France my wife has seriously called me to order over my excuses for not listening to her properly, and I’ve had to sit up and take notice. And climb down from my high horse, after nearly fifty years together as a couple. It hasn’t been a primrose path (the French project) but is has injected our relationship with a stiff dose of new reality, and we both welcome that.
I think this is not a rare occurence when couples retire to France. Our house seems to have been the graveyard of not a few ‘expat’ couples, although this issue is not much discussed in the rosy literature of migratory adventure.
It does coincide with the recent #metoo exposées and the long-overdue reappraisal of male attitudes to women, including mysogeny and paternalism. This has been a recurrent theme in several SFN threads over the past years, which is in itself a strength of the platform in more ways than one.
I think SFN has been as significant a factor in reshaping my worldview as any in my adult life, and of course that includes our relocation to France. I think it may be true of others who appear here, but that’s just an intuition, reading between the lines, so to speak.