Just a thought, Philip, for you to consider when some of the immediate turmoil is over. Few of us are going to be near enough to pop in and see you, and hear what’s happening for you. After a bereavement people often avoid the one left behind, because the thought that ‘there are no words’ can be a barrier to any sort of communication.
Bereaved people often feel cast adrift, moving in a world of other people and everyday things, but like ghosts, unseen and untouched. I think it can help people to feel anchored in reality, and able to feel again, and grieve, if contact with others in a reasonable sensitive but matter of fact way is re-established without undue delay and without our feeling that we are ‘intruding on private grief’.
Nobody wants to be ‘the fool who rushes in where angels fear to tread’, but I hope you may bear my words in mind, because I for one, and maybe others with a lighter touch and a better sense of humour than me, would like to sound you out now and then, even if you don’t feel up to a wordy reply. If you’d best be left alone, I shall understand, and if you have any thoughts on this, let us know, if and when you are ready.
Best wishes, Pete