Nor do I, but with me it’s laziness.
I seem to have moss growing …
I had that on my old red car - and my kids wrote in the dirt ‘disponible aussi en rouge’… It was there for weeks.
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wonderful idea i am off to buy buckets…thanks
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I almost laughed, if I hadn’t been appalled after all that’s been written here about buckets and showers.
The new Aide de Toilette arrived today, very nice English lady but with some funny ideas.
It takes quite a long time to get Fran into the shower after the long journey from the bed, and then at least another 10 minutes to persuade her first foot over the lip into the tray, ditto the 2nd foot, and then again while she is persuaded to turn and sit on the seat.
I went nearby for something or other and heard the shower flowing and decided to check if all was well. Fran wasn’t even in there but the shower head was spewing water from where it lay in the tray. 
I didn’t comment on the sheer waste, but did as gently as I could point out that we only have a 30 litre hot tank and that very soon she would be showering Fran in cold water. 
Advance warning, do not read further if you want to stay on topic. 
I am up to here with well meaning but useless advice, from special slippers, to stop her shuffling to keep them on (she doesn’t, they are a perfect fit but she is a shuffler) to ’ a lady must have different clothes each day’, (she has 4 different changes per week) to tying her hair back into a tight ponytail after washing which she discards across the room the instant the ‘helper’ has disappeared. I am still waiting for the explanation as to why something wet will dry quicker all scrunched up rather than spread out thinly to dry rapidly and completely. When I receive the convincing reason I can at last stop pinning all the clothes from the machine out on the line. Just roll them all into a ball and chuck them on the floor. 
Sorry, but apart from some good friends on here the only person to have any regard for my mental health has been her psychiatrist.
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How utterly infuriating, you have my sympathy. There’s not much as enraging as well-meaning completely clueless advice or actions.
We have a family expression of “bench washing”, basically hanging outer items of clothing like shirts out to air, then refolding them neatly and re-wearing them.
Many things don’t need to be washed each time you wear them if you are not involve in a hot, sweaty or dirty occupation. And no need to mention it to the aide soignant!
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Oh David… What a horrible time you’re having… I’m so sorry for your situation.
I had hoped that the Aide folk would help… not try to drive you round the bend with their antics.
I agree with Jane and Vero… unless an article of clothing is sweaty/dirty… it can surely be worn again without washing… hanging in the fresh air/sunshine is an excellent reviver.
Once your son has gone… is there any possibility your wife could briefly go into care of some sort, just for a few days … to give you a much needed “break” ???
Anti mousse and someone elses tooth brush 
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Point taken…!
I suspect we passed the tipping point some time ago. All the methane will be escaping from the permafrost and everyone can see how the weather’s going. We’re clinging to a rock that’s hurtling through space and at our own farewell party. Might as well enjoy it, I suppose. We do all the stuff to feel better, like refilling our washing up bottles at the plastic free shop, but we’d probably be better off buying a bunker and Learning hydroponics.
Well round and around an orbit of the sun.
Thank you for the kind response, all of you, I didn’t really mean to deflect the thread but someone lit a fuse in my brain and it exploded.
Taking son back to Limoges for his plane(s) to Malaga in the morning, much as I loved having him here after all these years there is no doubt that it is extra work, and he eats like a horse.
Then I can get back to saving the planet. 
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I think you’re doing fine by the planet… !!
Let’s hope the carers will allow you some time to take care of yourself.
Meanwhile… I can report that OH now carefully pours all drips and drops into a bowl by the sink… he’s getting quite enthusiastic about how the water mounts up, which would otherwise simply have gone down the drain… 
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Every single drop of water used on my property filters through a chalk hillside to eventually feed into the local reservoir.
And I fixed a leaking water pipe yesterday.
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I’m inclined to agree - well, if humanity concentrated its effort into renewables and nuclear (sorry, despite its bad image it is one of our best options) and aimed at year-on-year reduction in CO2 emissions of 10-20% for the next 15-20 years we might halt climate change.
It’s probably doable if we become single minded about it, but the economic cost would be high, and no government is willing to engage at that level - as you say, just twiddling around at the edges, people just assume tat things will carry on as now but summers will need a bit more factor 50.
Chaos theory shows that systems can move between metastable states very quickly if you push them hard enough they resist for a long while, but then flip. Politicians do not understand this, heck, they couldn’t even grasp the much simpler concept of exponential growth of cases in a pandemic. We have the likes of Lord Frost (never knowingly right about anything) claiming that there is no climate crisis and Truss wanting to rip up
While we have our current leaders, I honestly think we will see billions die by the end of the century, maybe even the whole of the human population.
I’m pretty sure humanity will survive - we are an incredibly widespread and adaptable species.
I do however fear for civilisation - and that the scientists’ focus on changes to the climate and natural environment rather than the inevitable social disruption and conflict that is also coming - beginning already - is hiding the severity of social collapse that will tear apart our children’s lives.
Truss, Frost, LePen, etc are of course appalling - they really don’t care - but almost as bad are the centrists like Starmer or Macron that probably do care, but are apparently incapable of imagining the profound structural changes we have to make to our lifestyles and economies.
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Agree, the problem is that right now we need something like benign global dictatorship.
But dictatorships are rarely benign - what was it Pitt the Elder said about unlimited power?
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Corrupting those that have it (or something), but until those that have been corrupted (Putin, Chinese, Indian, Brazilian etc dictators) are willing to do something about climate change too , we’re all screwed
Power tends to corrupt. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.
Don’t think it was Pit the Elder though.