I have the same moral dilemma sometimes. I kill as little as I can and rescue as many as I can, but the hornets nest falling inside the house is a real conundrum, too difficult to re-locate where they will follow so little else to do other than what you did.
The spider with the wasp, oh dear, that would give me a real problem, wasps are people too ( ) and think of all their babies. I do have a rule which I normally enforce, and that is not to intervene with nature which does not harm me or mine. This meant that the snake which had a frog’s leg completely in its mouth some years ago had to be left alone, but I did cheer when the frog jerked himself free without any outside help.
BTW a very good use for matchsticks, these modern so-called safety ones are no bloody good for actually producing fire.