SF Discussions - Why can't we all get on a little better?


(Peter Goble) #41

People vary greatly in their ability to judge how others see them, Chris, and in their ability to recognise emotional responses in others. The distribution of these subtle faculties of emotional intelligence are much like the spread across populations of cognitive intelligence (IQ), and neither of these relate to character or other personality attributes.

Some people are very good at deconstructing complex sentences, others aren’t. Some people are very skilled at manipulating objects in space, others are ‘clumsy’. Some people have excellent listening skills, others of otherwise superior intelligence have very poor recall of what they’ve heard, however attentively they try to listen (I am one such).

Few of us do full justice to the diversity of the species, and some (sadly) tend to assume that people are, or ought to be, “like me/us”; and if they aren’t they’re deficient or thick.

When people ask for feedback I think one’s default position should be to respect the validity of the request, and the courage it takes to make it. The world might be a better place if we all tried to admit this as a useful and constructive rule of thumb.

(Véronique Langlands) #42

Strictly speaking H2SO4 but sometimes H2SO7 :wink:

(James Higginson) #43

fwiw, I consider you to be a valuable member, sometimes you can be a little aggressive (like me) but your positive traits outweigh the negatives. For me that’s a win.

(stella wood) #44

Hi Simon… you know that I do nudge you gently… if I feel so inclined… :grin::relaxed:

(James Higginson) #45

It’s a shame that @Stuart_Wilson has given up on us, he used to be very active here. Humorous & reasonable, an all round good dude…

(Timothy Cole) #46

Have you really had an influx from FE, I don’t recognise too many?

(James Higginson) #47

What’s FE?

(Dominic Best) #48

French Entree, the forum that’s winding up.

(stella wood) #49

Ha ha… I didn’t want to admit my ignorance… :wink: :wink:

Another one folding ???

(Dominic Best) #50

Yes, folding rather than failing. The forum itself has a lively following but is only a small part of a bigger enterprise and the powers to be have decided it’s not providing value for money.

(Ann Coe) #51

Hi Simon
My remarks were not aimed at you, I would like to think that we could have some sort of ‘discussion’ if things got so bad.
It’s more that in some recent posts someone was quite aggresive for no reason whatsoever to something I posted. In fact the person concerned ‘quoted’ my posts by substituting their own words rather than mine , and also posted just parts of my posts that changed totally the context. I objected to this (as most of us would) and received some good advice from other members.
I followed their advice and now try hard not to react.
I am on here because I find that generally, even if we have different opinions (that’s normal) we can at least try to help out others where possible.
Snide remarks, clever remarks and general put downs don’t work for me. At the end of the day we are all immigrants here, so what if sometimes the spelling, grammar isn’t correct? Is it really important? I like lively open discussions and thankfully we have more of these than the negative kind. However I do keep my head down when I think the pace is too aggresive for my taste :thinking:

(John Withall) #52

Surely sometimes C30H46O3 :zombie:

(Simon Armstrong) #53

Ahhhhh - I didn’t know about the ‘poll’ function! So here’s your starter for 10 - two options, one choice and I’ll abide by the majority outcome :slight_smile:

  • Should I Stay At The Dinner Party?
  • Or Is It Time To Leave ?

0 voters

(Martin Cooper) #54

Good post Ann,

I’ve haad piople, kriterzing me gramer as wel and totaly ignorin me good poinnts.

Bad joking aside. My grammar is crap and when someone totally ignores your point and goes for a mistake on your punctuation, can make you feel really negative :frowning:

From your fellow immigrant…


(Timothy Cole) #55

Are you from Norfolk Martin?

(Martin Cooper) #56

Wats ureee probblem, Tim.

I kum from the estatesss of Nort Londen!?



(Ann Coe) #57

Have to get my glasses changed, thought the reply was from a Martian :rofl: xx

(Timothy Cole) #58

It pains me to admit this but although I’m proud to come from Norfolk some people from there do actually talk like that.

(John Withall) #59

I try to spell correctly but some of the letters are missing from my keyboard :grin: I generally get all the right letters but not necessarily in the right order. (Eric Morecombe) :relaxed:

(Ann Coe) #60

I have a French keyboard and the letters aren’t where they should be ! :confounded: